If the Spirits Aren’t Talking to You, You Might Be Full of Shit

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 Let’s talk about silence, self-delusion, and the spiritual static you’re not admitting to.

So you’re sitting there.
The incense is lit. The altar is clean. Your playlist is perfect.
You pull the cards, chant the names, close your eyes and…
nothing.
Nada.
Not even a flicker. Not even a whisper.

You say you’re “just not feeling it today,” or “maybe Mercury’s messing with the signal.”
But let’s not play games, sugar. If the spirits aren’t talking to you?
There’s a good chance it’s because you’re full of shit—and they know it.

Now Hold On…

Before you clutch your ethically sourced pearls, let me clarify:
There are many reasons the spirits go quiet. Some of them are holy. Some are protective. Some are just natural ebbs in the flow of things.

But silence isn’t always sacred.
Sometimes, silence is feedback.
Sometimes, it’s a neon sign flashing:
“We’re not talking to you until you get your house in order.”

Signs You’re the Problem (Not the Portal)

  • You’re asking for guidance but ignoring what they already told you six damn times.

  • You treat offerings like a vending machine: drop a shot of rum, expect a winning lottery ticket.

  • You only show up when you want something, then vanish like a ghosted date.

  • You lie—to yourself, to others, and worst of all, to your spirits.

  • You’re caught up in image, not intention. Performing, not practicing.

Newsflash: your guides aren’t stupid. Your ancestors see through your filters. The spirits don’t owe you a response just because you showed up with rose petals and good lighting.

The Spirits Don’t Respond to Fakery

You can fake it for Instagram.
You can fake it for your coven.
Hell, you can fake it so well, you might even believe it for a while.

But the Otherworld?
The Dead?
The Old Ones?
They don’t care about your branding.

They tune out noise. They walk away from ego.
They turn their backs on liars, manipulators, and those who treat them like accessories to a lifestyle instead of living, sentient forces.

If your magic feels hollow, if the gods are quiet, if your guides haven’t shown up in weeks—it’s time to stop blaming retrogrades and start checking yourself.

What Silence Might Actually Mean

Let’s break this down, real and raw:

1. They Already Answered. You Ignored It.

They told you to leave. You stayed.
They told you to rest. You hustled.
They told you to stop chasing that toxic “twin flame” nonsense. You lit another candle.
They’re not going to keep repeating themselves. They’re not your therapist.

2. You’re Overdosing on Noise.

Too many voices. Too many influences. Too much scrolling, not enough stillness.
Spirit communication requires space.
If your life is jammed full of other people’s energy, good luck hearing your own guides through the din.

3. You Haven’t Done Your Side of the Work.

You want wisdom but won’t do the ritual.
You want protection but haven’t paid your spiritual debt.
You want to “ascend” but haven’t faced your own shadow in six months.
Spirits expect reciprocity. You don’t get to ghost your ancestors for weeks and then show up like, “Hey besties, so I need a favor…”

4. You’re Avoiding What Needs to Be Heard.

Sometimes they go quiet because the truth they have for you would wreck you.
Because you’re not ready. Because you haven’t cleared the block.
They’re not being cruel. They’re being merciful.
But they’re not going to sugar-coat it when they do speak. So get ready.

How to Get Back in Right Relationship

  • Tell the truth. Out loud. Even if it’s ugly. Especially then.

  • Make amends. If you’ve disrespected your spirits, your ancestors, or your own craft, fix it.

  • Simplify. Turn off the noise. Strip it down to the bones. Candles. Water. Your voice.

  • Be present. Not performative. Not polished. Not perfect. Just real.

  • Shut up and listen. Don’t fill the silence. Honor it. Let it teach you. Let it clear you.

And If They Still Don’t Speak?

Maybe it’s because it’s not their turn. Maybe it’s yours.
Not every moment of magic needs a message.
Sometimes the lesson is the silence.
Sometimes the test is whether you’ll keep showing up even when no one claps, responds, or affirms you.

That’s the sign of a real witch. A real mystic. A real damn practitioner.

They don’t chase voices.
They become the voice.
And that?
That’s when the spirits listen.

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